Forgive & Remember

Congratulations! We’re so glad you’re here. Life will get better now, when you let go of your pain and resentment with forgiveness. Forgiveness is not what you thought it was – it’s so much better than that. It’s NOT: forgetting, excusing, saying it’s OK, giving up, being a doormat, staying open to further abuse, tolerating injustice, or reconciling and working things out. Forgiveness is the refreshing experience of letting go of unrealistic expectations that are causing you to suffer; it’s a private act that clears stress from your body and mind, turns your bad story into wisdom, and sets you free to move forward in a new and better way.

When we forgive someone, we are not saying that what happened is OK. If you have been wronged – by someone’s bad behavior, childhood abuse, social injustice, or an unfair life situation – that’s not OK! And it never will be. But even though a terrible thing has happened to you, you deserve to have a good life anyway, and that’s where forgiveness comes in. Most people don’t understand what forgiveness really is, and so they hold on to resentment, and resentment hurts you.

Here’s the best part: you do not have to talk to the person who has harmed you, or work things out, or reconcile your differences. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation – you can forgive someone and never see them again if you wish. You can forgive them and divorce them, or forgive them and proceed with a lawsuit, if that’s what the real-world situation calls for.  Forgiveness is something that you do for yourself, so you can breathe easy and sleep well at night, no matter what other people are doing or not doing. Real forgiveness is a profound and refreshing healing experience: an influx of fresh spiritual energy that dissolves your stress, re-sets your attitude, and brings you forward. It is separate from whatever worldly actions you might take in regard to the other person. And if you forgive someone you like and love, and you do want to remain connected? Ahhhh. More love, more ease. A better relationship, now and into the future.

How do you forgive? There is a simple, step-by-step method that reliably brings swift and permanent relief to a painful emotional issue, no matter how long you have held it. There is a way to forgive others, and a way to forgive yourself, which is of vital importance. There’s even a way to forgive life situations, or God. Our approach is based in holistic psychology and universal spiritual principles, and it can be used by people who practice a traditional religious faith, as well as by people who are spiritual but not affiliated with a church.

You can learn how to forgive in a weekend and live free of stress for the rest of your life. It’s not hard to forgive – maybe you just don’t know how. Forgiveness is a life skill and a good health habit, and you can be taught how to forgive, just like you were taught how to brush your teeth or drive a car. We hope that you will spend some time on this site, and start learning how to forgive, today, with the free information and learning resources that are available to you here. If the problem you have is too big to tackle on your own, get some help! We’re here for you. There are skillful forgiveness coaches available to help you – on the phone or in person, at a public workshop or in a private forgiveness intensive.

Whoever you are, this information is offered to you sincerely, because you are a good person, and you deserve to be happy. Let’s get started!

Your friends at The Midwest Institute for Forgiveness Training